- It takes two conscious beings who are willing to be 100% accountable for themSelves and the relationship—not just 50% accountable and blaming their partner for the other fifty. David Hawkins wrote in Power vs. Force, “By taking the responsibility for the consequences of his own perceptions, the observer can transcend the role of victim to an understanding that ‘nothing out there has power over you.’ It isn’t life’s events, but how one reacts to them and the attitude that one has about them, that determines whether such events have a positive or negative effect on one’s life, whether they’re experienced as opportunity or as stress.”
- You have to know yourSelf, so you can own your voice and speak your truth about whatever comes up for you in honesty and authenticity.
- You have to let go of your attachment to being right as well as your expectations as to how the relationship should look and be ok with accepting what is.
***My views on this a couple of years later continue to evolve, as do my desires and preferences. Where as before, I was so bent on my freedom because it seemed to always be taken from me, having healed that, I do desire a committed, monogamous relationship with my beloved and find even more freedom inside of that. It's all about your personal preferences, your ability to remain authentic to you and to communicate that ever evolving truth as your relationships progress.